Would this upset you?

[daizychain]

My dh has told me to stop cooking his meals he will make his own he doesn't like what I make. I have been cooking for 12 years. I feel upset about this but should I?

Howsithanging I think you just put my concern into words 'opting out of family life'.

Yes I would feel hurt and upset. More so if he started cooking his own separate meals without clearing up afterwards or ever cooking for the rest of the family.

Dies he see cooking as your role? Can't he cook the adults meals and you do the children's ones in future?

Is it because he has to reheat his when he gets in if you and dc have eaten earlier?

Yes, I also think opting out of family life. And a bit more besides

I think that's a good suggestion that he cook for the 2 of you. Would you want to eat what he cooked though? Just curious, what does he like eating? Ready meals or from scratch?

He should definitely clear up his mess though. Leaving it for to you deal with is out of order. Wanting to eat different food is understandable, but the way he said it - "don't like it" - is unkind and ungrateful for all the years you have cooked for him. Sort of childish, resentful even? Is this his usual way of communicating?

i think it is odd....do you usually feed kids first and have adults supper later ?
if he wanted more adult meals and he offered to cook them ...then i would say ok...but if you eat together as a family, it is going be difficult, especially if kids decide they don't want to eat something ...i could see my two when they were little saying ' i don't want this....' and me saying ' well that is what i have cooked and we are all having it' and dd saying 'well daddy isn't'

sorry sounds like he is checking out of family life...and i would be wondering why ?