My OH and I have been seeing each other for a couple of years, very casual, at my request. He'd have probably committed a lot sooner than I wanted to, I have a few issues with trust, etc.
I finally felt ready to make a proper go of things a while back, and we now live together. Things are really good, he's loving and kind and pulls his weight. I've got no reason to doubt him based on his actions and he makes me very happy.
The problem is, he's very friendly with a girl from work. They text daily (though not as much as they did when he wasn't living here) and last night he purposely turned his phone screen down on the side. I guessed something was up and surprise surprise, he was texting her. The messages are nothing incriminating, they used to be flirtier, but I'd not have a friendship like that with another man. It would feel disrespectful, but I understand that's my moral standpoint on it and obviously I can't expect everyone to be the same.
I don't know if I'm over reacting to be pissed off about this? It's the hiding it last night that's really bothered me. Its taken a lot for me to trust him and now I feel like that could so easily be broken.