Meeting up after 10 years!!!

[ladygaga1980]

Long story short I'm meeting up with an old flame who I haven't seen for 10 years.

We're both single and mid 30s but live a distance away so are meeting up half way, which means an overnight stay. We have been speaking on the phone for the month or so and there is a definitely a spark but I'm not sure if I want to share a room as I think it might be a bit too intense after all this time apart. But I'm worried that suggesting separate rooms will make me look reserved and prudish...

So how do I suggest it but still keep the flirty vibe going? Also, I don't want this to be a one night thing... I really like him and am so glad we're getting a second chance but don't want to blow it!!

I texted him! He was very nice about it, and it's not a problem. Gosh I like him so much! We are staying close to somewhere Churchill stayed during ww2. And we've joked that our arrangements are so complicated that it's like we are planning d-day!

Ooh ooh ooh - when is this OP?

Not till 20th July. Need to be patient

Or even early August. At least this gives me time to shave, wax, dye, exfoliate, diet prepare!

How long does it take you to shave?

Oh good, slut shaming.

I met up with my old flame after 10 years and slept with him that night. Didn't do us any harm, we're married now with a baby.

Calm down Meltchett nobody was slut shaming. You're reading it as "don't sleep with him the first night you filthy slag" and "it's been ten years, you may well not fancy him in person, probably best not to have a shared room so you don't get stuck sharing with a bloke you don't fancy" which is just sensible really.

Trust me I'm the last person to slut shame!

Sorry my "and" should have been "as opposed to"

Too many people have casual sex these days so that it has no more significance than, say, a game of tennis

Doesn't look brilliant does it.

However I had missed the daft message from roux which I will give you is definitely slut shaming Meltchett , I apologise

Sometimes a game of tennis can be very important.

I met up with my first bf 15 years later after a month and a half of texting, we booked separate rooms too with the best intentions... That failed dismally He is now, 5 years later, my DH lying in bed snoring at me and I am 36 weeks pregnant with our second child, still as lovestruck as ever

Thanks for sharing all your lovely advice and stories.

Quick update now:

Pros: We met up last weekend at a lovely village location. We had separate rooms but didn't use them, other than to have some down time. We laughed a lot and there was a spark. We went walks and for dinner. One day we both came down for a walk and both had on matching clothes!! (navy jumper and black waterproof jacket).

Cons: He didn't want to talk about 'feelings' much, or if we should keep in touch... he did text when he got back saying he had a great time and would be in touch. We also 'bickered' quite a few times, like an old married couple. And he talked constantly (maybe nerves?)...

I am still confused... it wasn't quite the 'romantic' weekend I was looking for, but it was very interesting and fun...