Shall I tell new partner of ex about his criminal past and violence?

[Mrskeats]

Hi I am in a quandray.
I had an awful, violent, controlling relationship with ex p who left in April. I got the police involved after one incident and am still deciding whether to push that further.
However I have found out that the new woman he's seeing knows nothing about his past.
The main issue is that he is on the sex offenders register for an offence four years ago. This came out after I knew him for a while and I should have run for the hills. However he convinced me that he hadn't been at fault; the system etc etc
I don't want to give details but it wants rape.
Anyway he groomed me also I think. Isolated me from family; used controlling behaviour and occasionally violence including putting his hands around my throat.
Now the new issue. He works with new lady and she sends him to people's houses to fix things. He has told me she doesn't know. However when she finds out this puts her in a v difficult position and her job could be on line.
She doesn't even know his real name.
He also has a daughter he doesn't acknowledge or support and is being chased by the csa.
I have knowledge now that he's been abusive to other partners.
I'm trying to put my life back together and have an amazing new partner.
I feel he will ruin her life too and she needs to be warned. She's a single parent too and he uses women to get what he wants ( a roof and in her case more work)
She has no idea of what awaits
There are lots of other secrets too and his family has disowned him.
Leave well alone and let another family be damaged or tell her?
I'm afraid of him tbh also

First things first. The first thing you need to do is contact the police, and let the head of the agency know.

As regards his current gf, if you feel you want to tell her and can cope with it then by all means do. But she may not believe you anyway, and even if she does she may think he's 'changed'/not guilty etc.

If you want to press charges that's up to you. I understand how stressful that will be.

Did you ever meet his MAPPA officer? Depending on the offence, it's fairly usual for spouses/partners to be included in the process. If so, then you could get in touch with them directly.

Alternatively, if you want to remain anonymous, log all the details with Crimestoppers online - his old name, new name, the fact he's a RSO, the work he does etc. It will be sent through to the local police Intel Unit who will act accordingly. He can't expect to remain hidden as an RSO - changing his name without notifying the police is an offence.

Yes I think will go to the police before he does any more damage. I think customers would be far from happy if they knew his history.
He was abusive to another woman he lived with. He threw a glass of water in her face whilst she was in bed once and chased her across a garden in a car. She was driven mad by his goading and eventually stabbed him! That's his version so am guessing there is loads more.
I feel sick now.
I think he's told the police person about name change but hasn't told them he's working for someone.

Do what is safe for you and your daughter. If you are holding back on charging him and you say you are afraid of him, think very carefully about possible consequences for you and your daughter if you interfere in this dangerous man's life.

Hi

Yes I'm worried that he will immediately link any action taken against him to me.
I just feel bad that another woman is about to get a shock as the police will eventually turn up at her door as he has to register any address he's staying at. It's a horrible scary feeling. She will then be left in a difficult position re work. Plus she won't lie and tell them he just works for himself will she? It's a house of cards.
I wish though another woman had warned me about him. I think I would have listened if they had some facts. He kept it all hidden for quite a while.

Could you get a male friend to do the warnings?