Me: "What do you want to do?" Him: "You choose"

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Aggghhhhhh. 6 months into a relationship and I'm fresh out of date ideas. He ALWAYS says "you choose" and never suggests anything himself. We've done all the usual cinema, restaurants, comedy clubs, cosy nights in.

I'm fresh out of ideas. He doesn't like anything with adrenaline so fun fairs/themeparks are out.

Can you help this frustrated woman!?

Oh and I agree with enjoying the mundane stuff. The other weekend my bf and I met up very late on Friday, after long work shifts, basically fell asleep straight away. The next day long lazy snuggly lie in, then spent Saturday taking some things to the tip, walking the dog, then coming home, making dinner, watching movies. Nothing special, just enjoying spending normal time together.

Next time he leaves it up to you, make plans that don't involve him. Carry on doing so until he gives a damn, or until you realise you no longer do.

Goodness. He's a shy introvert. I fear that if I stepped back on the planning, we would sit around in awkward silence a lot of the time. I'm not really an introvert, although I love all the homely stuff - lazing about watching Netflix, etc. I guess I'll step off the gas and what will be, will be.

Well not necessarily odd to not to be having sex - but I enquired because 6 months in I thought that might be occupying a fair bit of time

What's a typical weekend like for you two? What happens, what do you do? Over the course of a weekend with BF we might do one longish outing and spend rest of the time just hanging out at home. I'm a bit of an introvert and don't like a weekend where every minute is filled with activities, I like a balance of activity /outing and being at home. Could you BF be similar?

Could be worse. My DH will say "you choose, I don't mind", whatever I suggest he'll say "what about this instead". It drives me crazy.

I do this with BF mainly because he always asks me to decide but dislikes the things I like/have suggested in the past but won't say - he just goes and ruins them so I have, for the past year or so only ever countered it with 'I don't mind' which is now starting to annoy him. Thing is generally I enjoy doing/eating pretty much anything and he is very, very picky with strong feelings so I feel we are at an impasse... It could be that dynamic with you or it could be that he is unconfident or thinks he needs to be a gentleman?

You're the opposite to me and DH. He loves to plan and I don't. Has your DP got a stressful job and he just likes to chill out? Honestly I hate activities which are planned to the point of being army manoeuvres. Do you see him as less of a man because he doesn't organise things? Are you bored with him? You say you're sitting round in an awkward silence. This is not a good sign.