A very old close friend, but for a long time I have found her behaviour hard to stomach. She's had marriage problems for years, filed for divorce several times, dropped it, been in counselling for years, been emotionally and physically abusive to her DH (hit and kicked him once ) - she has a terrible temper- but it's never HER fault. I've tried to remain neutral when she tells me about their issues but a lot of the time I think she's over-reacting or being selfish , though I do accept he's a moody bugger and doesn't meet her emotional needs at times. Years ago she made a decision that impacted on their lives and he's been expressing regret. she's been very callous about this saying he's just got to get over it. There is more...but don't want to detail for anon reasons. He's not blame-free by any means. But overall, it's always 'his' fault. I've tried to be supportive but it's hard and I feel now she's changed from the person I knew years ago. I've stopped contacting her as much but I really don't know how to handle my own emotions because my feelings for her have completely changed. I suppose the options are to carry on being a friend but less involved in her life or tell her what i think- which would mean the friendship was over.