Have name changed
I kicked dp out 3 months ago. Our relationship wasn't particularly awful apart from one factor - he could not come home at a reasonable hour during the working week. He would go out till 2am regularly with his mates and in the end it drove me mad. It wasn't so much the lateness though I struggled with that, it was the lying (he would say he was coming back at 9pm then just not turn up). He could never say no to his friends and I suspect he had a drinking problem.
So I asked him to leave or behave more reasonably and he left and rather than staying with his friends (which he could have done), he went back to his house which his dw lives in (separated for donkeys years but not finally divorced due to issues with a property). He claims he moved into the spare room. It's a very large house and it was about to be sold (to enable the divorce) so he claimed (not that I was interested!) that he had moved back in to make sure this happened and push it all through. He came to see me shortly after and begged me to keep seeing him. That he would sort his shit out and move back in and he'd been an arse etc etc
I told him I wasn't interested but we have carried on having a cordial relationship (as friends). We both have many many joint friends and it would be really awkward if we weren't on friendly terms.
Except he is right royally taking the piss. He will not give my car keys back. He still has a phone number on my contract (as I have a v good deal due to the business I run) and he still hasn't ported the number so I am still paying the bill. I can cut him off at the drop of a hat but I was TRYING to give him a chance to do it (as he runs a business so his phone is important). He always comes up with excuses but I am realising that basically this man is one big taker. I phoned yesterday as there was a big bill for an 0844 number as the card machine had broken down in his business and they don't have a landline to report it. I asked him not to call this number from the mobile as the charges are so high. On the phone he was appalled and said he wouldn't do it again and he'd transfer the money for it. I just got another alert on my bill (it's set up to flash up for excessive charges) to show that the minute after I had the call with him, he dialled the number again!
I realise now that all the 'nice' behaviour he has been showing me has been to keep getting his own way. I have insisted he comes here tomorrow (I can't go out as I have a delivery coming) but I have a strong suspicion he won't turn up. He is at work tomorrow I suspect so once my delivery has come, I can go there but last time I did this, he said he didn't have the keys on him. I don't want to go round to his house as his wife won't answer the door to me (and they have an elder child and tbh I don't want to cause a scene in front of any dcs) but I do need the keys back for the car. It's one of those touch start cars and the replacement keys cost a fortune but more importantly, him keeping the keys means he can drive it when I'm at work and I don't want that! This time I will take the phone and cancel the contract once I have the keys.
Please give me strength for tomorrow. I want this sorted out once and for all but I have a feeling it is going to be hugely unpleasant.