Tonight I've realised I can't go on like this

[DementedSwan]

I think I'm in an abusive relationship, possibly it's my fault too...

We took the dc out as a treat, local playground/ beer garden. Kids playing happily, everyone had a drink and a packet of crisps. One dc asked to try mine, decided they liked them so I have them the packet. Dh goes off on one says they were his crisps and dc should give them back, cue dc crying. I explained it was my packet but he was adamant it was his despite his empty packet sat right in front of him.

Dc ask for a push on the swing - he stomps off muttering when will I get a fucking rest.

He constantly badgers me for sex, granted I put it off as I don't like the way he talks to me and dc. If he gets sex he's happy. Perhaps I should give in more often.

I don't know, I'm confused and frightened for the future, I don't want to live like this, those are just tonight's examples, sounds trivial but the looks on his face ???? he's now snoring on the sofa as if not coming to bed is punishing me.

This is day in day out.

Most likely.

Has he always spoken so rudely to you?

If not why did your sex life dwindle?

In no way am I excusing him but many people become snappy and unhappy if they're not satisfied with their sex life. I know I would be if my partner didn't want to sleep with me.

If he has always spoken this way to you then I don't blame you for not sleeping with him. But you can't just ignore all that. If he's in the wrong (which he is for talking to you like crap) then you need to communicate and tell him. But ignoring the issue isn't gunna help. He's just going to feel more angry and keep snapping.

Sounds like he just snapped and went ott about the crisp packet and swings.

Talk to each other. I really don't see why it's so hard for two adults who are married and have kids together to sit down and talk.

Tell him he talks to you like crap and for that reason you don't want to have sex with him. At least then you can say you've tried telling him.

But staying silent, not having sex, and walking round on eggshells is never going to help this relationship. He needs to know.