I've been with my other half for nearly 3 years and we've recently moved in together. For context I have children from a previous relationship who he is fantastic with so no problems there.
My issue is that my OH seems somewhat detached and dismissive of my feelings. I'm not sure if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill or if it is not acceptable behaviour from him.
One example: if he upsets me or anything like that he makes out like I'm the unreasonable one who can't take a joke and I should stop being so miserable. This stems from things such as when we are in bed I will try to come on to him for sex, he will repeatedly move me away or just laugh and block me away. I will then be upset and say if you don't want to then just say no instead of blocking me. Instead it's then turned into a big thing where he says he's joking or he doesn't have to be all over me all of the time ( just to add I am not needy and I do not wish to have him all over me all of the time however he rarely kisses me or holds my hand so I think he is making an unfair statement here) or he's too tired and when he gets into bed he is there 'to sleep'. His words.
I've said to him that I am not a mind reader and if he never comes on to me then how do I know if we can be intimate?
Obviously sex isn't the only issue here such as sometimes he'll call me a miserable bitch (later on says it was a joke) he never says sorry sincerely and if I ever cry he tells me to stop fucking crying.
Am I mad or is that incredibly insensitive?? All I want is a cuddle and some intimacy. I'm with the children all day and look forward to him coming home for adult chat etc.
I feel like he finds it easier to dismiss my feelings on anything but this is making me resentful as nothing is ever sorted out properly.
So is it normal for someone to be this detached?? Some days he is lovely and affectionate and other days he enjoys winding me up to the point that i'm hurt/angry. What should I do if anything?? (Sorry for long post!)