38 weeks pregnant and thinking of leaving DP

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DP is a good person and will make a brilliant father but our relationship is more like a friendship, there is very little passion and affection which to me, are very important in a relationship. This has been a problem for the past year or so but a throw away comment DP made last night has really got me thinking about our future together.

I think staying together for the sake of the baby will cause us to end up resenting each other or looking for something elsewhere. This happened to my parents when I was a child and I never want to put my child through what I went through during that time.

Do you thinking walking away now would be the healthy thing to do or am I being crazy?

I love DP dearly but we clearly want different things in a relationship and I think my feelings towards him are a lot stronger than his are for me if that makes sense? I don't want to spend to rest of my life hoping that one day the penny will drop and he will show me the love and affection that I need.

Good luck OP. You are doing a very brave thing. So many people stay in the wrong relationships mistakenly thinking it's better for their children

Thank you. It's far from what I want but things will only get worse if I stay.

And tell everyone that you have left him because he is a lazy, selfish cokehead who can't be bothered to treat you well. He may subsequently grow up and become a decent father, but if he doesn't, it's better to have got rid of him before the baby is born and definitely before the baby is old enough to have any idea of who he is.

He is a good person, far from lazy and works very hard to provide us with everything we need, the emotional side of things is where the problem lies.

I kno I have probably made things worse by being needy and over analysing things to try to figure out what's gone wrong, but he knows how I feel and I can't get why he won't make any effort the change his behaviour

I would think seriously about putting a cokehead on the birth cert, OP. It will give him a lot of rights over your child, whereas if he is not on the birth cert you can encourage or discourage contact, depending on how confident you are in his treatment of the dc.

I left my sons father when I was 28 weeks pregnant, under completely different circumstances admittedly but it's the best thing I ever did.