My husband is a drunk, he will never change and I can't put up with it anymore.
Our toddler son has been ill for the past week and I have now caught his virus. I've been the one looking after our son, up at night etc. Last week my husband went out and slept on the sofa afterwards. At 6.30am I took our son downstairs and asked him to look after him so I could have 30 mins sleep. He let DS come running upstairs after me. He then slept late and went into work late, leaving me to care for our sick son having been up all night with him.
Again on Saturday night I was up with DS yet the husband slept til lunchtime. Although I am tired from caring for a sick child whilst being pregnant and sick myself, he is tired from " just existing" and that is apparently the same. And he doesn't mean he has depression, he means he is tired by General life, which in his case means staying up watching Netflix and drinking.
I did go back to bed on Sunday afternoon for a couple of hours ( relevant later).
He took monday off to care for our son while I went to work, he also took Tuesday off despite me being off already as I was by then too unwell to work. He didn't look after DS though but did jobs that suited him like hanging a tv on the wall.
By yesterday I was very unwell and sent DS back to nursery as he seemed better and I wasn't in a fit state to look after him. I got called to collect him later that day as he had a 40 degree temp. I relayed this to the husband and told him I needed him at home. Despite this he decided to get drunk and come home two hours late, he then went straight to sleep on the sofa without even checking on us. DS was crying as he was feeling so ill.
When I let him know this morning exactly what a prick I think he is he told me that he " has his own life". That I am horrible to him even when he is being good and that he looked after us both all weekend while I lay in bed ( the 2 hour nap I had on Sunday as I'd been up for 4 nights in row with DS and was becoming unwell myself).
He doesn't see that he has behaved appallingly. He never does and this sort of stuff happens all too often.
I really want to leave. He won't move out as this is apparently his house and I'm a parasite. This despite the fact I work too ( do all the cleaning and most of childcare). We've recently moved to a house I can't afford on my own. What can I do? I'm 18 weeks pregnant too. I can't survive financially on my own during maternity leave.
Please help!