Wow as it says I dont know where to start as some of you know on here I have a very rocky relationship with my mother ive posted numerous times and I think ive even spoken about my estranged father at some point. Ive been trying my best to take on board advice from you ladies and seemed to be working ive had little contact with her and ive been alot happier. Last few days shes been badgering me to come see her Ive said no (that ive too much on, like shes said to me plenty of times).
Yesterday she turned up at the kids school gates un- announced said she had something important to talk about so invited her to the house - my heart skipped a beat wondered what the hell was wrong, she wanted to tell me that my estranged father has asked to get in contact with us all and that his mum had died and wanted us to attend funeral the grandma ive only met about 4 times!! We chatted and I explained that I didnt want to go and she said fair enough but your dad still wants to see you (ive seen him loads of times about but he doesnt want to know). I basically told her I wasnt interested he had messed me about so many times previously broken promises not turning up to my wedding was the final straw. Ive always tried to put the past behind me but my mum was getting me so mad way she seemed to be sticking up for him. He was abusive towards my mum for years beat her black and blue in front of me and my siblings why the hell should she care, its like hes still got an hold of her even though shes married.
So my husband decides to come home right at that minute and walk in on us in an heated debate hes very short with her best of time and tells her to get out said hes bit his tongue too long, she decided to get personal and throwing insults left right and centre including calling him a smack head!! (shes very religious not sure she even knows what one is) when was the last time anyone saw an 18 stone smack head was hubbys reply, she looked bewildered and asked me if i was going to let him talk to her like that I just walked away really angry at this time and aware that my kids are listening, so she decides to tell me shes disowing me....
After im in tears and hubby is ranting so I had a go at him for getting involved so we end up arguing all night reminds me of the fact his parents arent perfect as if its some sort of competition, we have sort of made up now but im feeling so down in the dumps had my siblings txtying wanting to know the details, i just cant be doing with it ive turned my phone off and deactivated facebook for a few days or so. No wonder we are all so screwed up just want to live my life in piece