My husband says that he has not cheated on me but I can tell that he no longer feels about me the same way he used to. We have both aged. We've been together more than 20 years now. I am over the hill (over 50) and he is interested in other women. He also likes to use porn. However, he keeps all these things a secret from me and denies everything. But I can tell by the way he treats me. For example, for our anniversary it took him two days to cough up a small box of chocolates (200g, two days late). He also bought a card at the last minute (just before closing time) and only because he wanted to keep the peace. In nature, a female of my age would also be treated like less than nothing - so it is to be expected. But it hurts never-the-less. He prefers the company of younger women (even our daughter) to me. I feel as if he is just using me to keep the family together - we have three dependent children. We are involved in joint ownership of our house. Unfortunately, I don't feel that, at my age, I would be able to find anyone else. I am very shy and introvert. My husband was my only real friend. Any advice would be appreciated.