If your husband has / had an affair did they eventually fess up?

[lordsandladies]

Or did you have to find rock solid proof. Do they deny to this day?

just wondering.

A bit of me wants to. I want the future I planned and my other half, because he has been for years. I want to believe the reasons he gives for everything. And above all because he's been a loving homebody husband for 17 of our 19 years and the person he became due to the breakdown i don't recognise or like.

But the other cold hard logic but of me and the deep gut pain of me doesn't believe it didn't happen. Tries to remind me how strong and cynical I used to be.

And between the two I'm muddled confused and have no time or space to process. So "sort out relationship" feels like it's going on the "to do" list behind work, kids, housework...

lords -- how are things going for you now?