Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Crumbling relationship

7 replies

rachelkd · 23/06/2015 09:13

I've been with my partner 4 years and we have a daughter together who is a year old next month.

My partner has always put technology ahead of me and now my daughter. Games and Facebook videos come first. He does very little with our daughter or around the house.

He seems to be very childish and selfish. He'll eat all the food in the house and leave me with no money. He got a new job as I was ending my maternity leave which means I can't work, so I'm reluctantly unemploymed.
I don't have friends or family near by.

He purposely annoys me. He'll sing and dance and rhyme everything. I know that doesn't sound bad... But it's like living with a CBeebies character constantly.

He's useless sexually so I've given up. Pointing him in the right direction don't work. His orgasm is all that counts.

Also recently I've started reading a lot about feminism and agreeing with it. He tells me I'm a 'man hater' now.

I am starting to hate him. I know he wants attention and love but I just can't give it to him. I resent him. I blow hot and cold with him because of it.

I'm banging my head against a wall.

OP posts:
FredaMayor · 23/06/2015 09:20

Your DP is lazy in the relationship and doesn't respect you, although I believe you deserve respect if you give it.

I think you should find child care and get back into employment if you can, it will give you more autonomy and a chance to build up some funds for the decisions you make in the future.

WingsofNylon · 24/06/2015 10:16

He sounds like he wants a lot from you but gives nothing back. How does he react when you try to talk to him about it all?

QuiteLikely5 · 24/06/2015 10:18

I doubt you can change him.

What do you want to do about it?

Vivacia · 24/06/2015 10:22

Why are you with him? Habit? Confused

LadyBlaBlah · 24/06/2015 11:12

It's hard to get things 'back' when this level of disdain has set in. You can't 'unsee' what you've now seen.

It's tough, OP.

I agree re going back to work. That will help you assess your options from a basis that you don't need to stay.

Jan45 · 24/06/2015 11:21

Stop banging your head then and enjoy being with yourself.

FruminariaBandersnatchiosum · 24/06/2015 12:37

Bin - no question. Flowers for you OP.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page