I would really appreciate some advice and criticism if nec about coping with my mum.
I love her a lot and really want to have a fantastic easy going relationship with her.
The issue is that she often tells me how down she feels because when she had children she didn't think she would be in this position. Apparently all of her friends see their children and grandchildren all the time, take the grandchildren out on day trips frequently, spend Easter and bank holidays together, go on holiday together etc etc etc.
She says how lonely she feels at times that she's not doing that. But she if busy and her and my dad are often visiting friends, going on trips, doing stuff etc.
I have a sibling but they live abroad and have not been home for years so it all falls to me really.
The issue is that my DH Works away in the week so our weekend time is quite precious as a family. We do tend to see my parents all together every 2-3 months and dd and I will meet up with them for an afternoon a couple of times between these family visits. We've also been on holiday for a week this year and last year with them.
Dh doesn't really get the problem as he has a very loose relationship with his parents only seeing them a couple of times per year. Therefore seeing my parents every 6 weeks feels really frequent to him.
I've explained to my mum that I know some people that see their parents weekly or more often, others that are more like us, but she maintains that the people she knows are the norm.
Tonight she said she didn't want to put pressure on me and I snapped a bit that I did feel she's putting pressure on me, and now I feel a cow for saying that as she sounded really hurt. I spent the whole day with them 2 weeks ago and she's asking me again when we're next meeting up.
Does this make me an awful person?
I wish they'd had more than just 2 children so there are more of us for her to spend time with :(
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SillyOldFox · 22/06/2015 22:43
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