Birthday coming up

[Ikeameatballs]

I've been dating a man for a couple of months. We seem to get on well etc.

It's my birthday next weekend, I'd already made plans for it before meeting him so I'll be away and won't see him.

So far he has not mentioned getting me a present/card/doing anything...

Am I being unreasonable (I know it's not AIBU not not feeling grave enough) to expect something?

Brave, not grave though I might have been flamed to death!

Ikeameatballs,
How do you know he isn't planning something for when you get back?
He might just surprise you!
Don't worry about it.

I don't know, he might be....I suppose I'm really wondering if I'm being silly to expect something, just a token gift would be fine. We are def exclusive, our friends know we are seeing each other etc so starting to feel like boyfriend/girlfriend.

I think this is one of those early dating things that nobody quite knows the etiquette for.

If you've been together for a few months and you've already got something planned for your actual birthday, he probably won't suggest doing something else. He may well have got you a card and/or a token present, but I suppose he'll give those to you whenever he sees you closest to your birthday - mentioning them in advance would be a bit weird.

I'd focus on whatever you already have planned for the day. If he surprises you with something, that's lovely. If he doesn't, you won't have built up any expectations.

Thanks, I'll try to relax a bit:)