Fathers Day

[Balders74]

Hi all. Just wondered how everyone is feeling about tomorrow?

My Step-father is dead & my real Father might as well be so I don't have to worry about tomorrow. I did consider my FIL to be as close to a Father figure as I could get but since I heartlessly told his emotionally retarded Son that I didn't want to be his Wife/Mother any more I have become persona non grata. Hey ho.

So then there are the DC & their idiot Father. I gave DD some money earlier to get him a card. It is going to be tough to find one that doesn't say 'Best Dad', 'Dad you're my hero' etc.

He is having them tomorrow. When I asked him earlier what he was going to do with them he just said 'dunno'.

I'm sure there are people who have a fabulous relationship with their Dad, I just don't know anyone!!

for all the people finding today difficult for various reasons.

My dad is a crap dad. I'm feeling guilty about not sending him a card - they all sounded so ridiculous.
My DC's dad is crap too.

My Dad died when I was 3m old.
My mother's husband (who I was told was my Dad but who was never allowed to adopt me or behave in a Dad-type way except when she wanted him to walk me down the aisle for the sake of 'appearances') - have hardly had contact since wedding 15 years ago.

My H and the father of my two kids is in the other room watching TV with them whilst I do everything - as per. He is a LOUSY husband and not a great Dad either. So I am making stuff with the kids and reminding them to write cards and doing a 'special lunch' and wondering what the fuck for.

Sorry if this has rubbed anyone up the wrong way.

Sympathies for those who have lost their Dad. I know how that feels.
Goodbetter - I'd buy one of your cards. It would be appropriate and the bugger is still living here

Well, I've done all the fathering round here since my xh buggered off 6 years ago so this morning I got me to B&Q and bought myself a new strimmer and a set of drill bits. Didn't bother with a card though!

Happy Father's Day to all the single mums who do all the fathering as well as the mothering every single day of the year!

Dammit Yvb! I wish I thought to do that!! I'm definitely taking Father's Day as my own next year!

I am feeling a bit sad today.

My own Dad is great but, with DH having had an affair, celebrating him being a 'great Dad' sticks in my craw a bit. Particularly as I found out about his affair on Mothers Day - so that will be a bit shit for me forever.

Added to this, there is often a bit of tension about me putting my family (Mum, Dad, Sister) ahead of DH. So - as we are trying to make our marriage work - I didn't make arrangements to see my Dad today in order for us to spend time together as a family....which has turned out a bit rubbish as DD2 was up at 5:15am and is now too knackered to do anything, having been to a birthday party earlier...which is my fault because our kitten woke her up...which was my idea to get, against DH's wishes...

Is it bedtime yet?

It's a Hallmark invention, it's crap IMHO, but if you have a good relationship.with your DC.s it.must be nice to have a day together, but don't get the feeling of guilt or entitlement around it !!

Feeling a bit raw today. My dad died 3 years ago this year, very young, very sudden. We were very close, and he was just about the best person I knew.

He missed DC2 by just a few weeks and I think every day about what she would have meant to him and how funny and cool they would have been together.

This is my first Fathers Day since leaving my H in Jan. DC asked him to come and visit today, he said no. He managed a quick call today.

Had a lovely day with my family instead.

Sorry to everyone missing their lovely dads today

I am a Dad of two, and yet again the day passed without a card or present.

Does make my sad. Even made a cooked breakfast for everyone else, and no one bat an eyelid.

I do not get on that well with my own Dad, but he just an hour away so I made effort to spend 3 hours with him listening to his long stories.

Roll on tomorrow.

For Mothers Day I took my kids to Tesco, handed them a note, left them in the Mothers Day aisle to choose stuff and went and bought croissants etc. It did not bother me that I instigated it. We had a lovely time regardless.

On Father's Day I went and bought XH cards, had the kids sign them and they gave them to him. He complained that the cards weren't good enough.

He will be getting fuck all next year.

Taking your kids for tea to a pub once a fortnight, and barely engaging with three out of the four of them does not make you a good father.

caved in to my brother's request to see my dad. Spent a couple of hours being told my brothers were high academics while I was a not. Being told how they had achieved and I hadn't, but it was fine because I was pretty. How my achieving my OU degree was too late in life - blah, blah, blah. He hated where we went and what we ate.

He said how he wished to die like my mum, 'suddenly and no fuss' (she died last October) and then I had to listen to a hour of him complaining about the NHS, building new houses on fields, ingrowing hairs and how he has no money (he has LOADS of money he's just tight) though he did manage to buy each of his grandchildren a box of roses last Christmas, big spender!

Miserable bastard. He can bugger off somewhere else this Christmas.