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AIBU to want more in a relationship?

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TeddyBear2015 · 19/06/2015 20:56

Hi, first time poster so don't know all the right acronyms, you'll have to bear with me!

My OH and I have been together for 19mths now and in that time have moved in together and had a baby. Just as it looks we rushed into a lot and our baby wasn't planned. To be honest we didn't really know each other well enough in hindsight and now I feel trapped in a relationship because of the baby.

I do love him and the baby is beautiful. He's our entire world so as a fall back we can make everything about us whilst we ignore the problems in our own relationship. The fact is we haven't any sort of physical relationship, we don't kiss properly, we haven't slept together since April 2014 and we can't talk about it because he avoids the subject like the plague. It causes multiple arguments and we constantly fall out.

I feel like he doesn't love me and it's making me feel really unattractive. Having a baby changed how I thought about myself physically and this makes me feel very ugly.

AIBU to want more from him? Even a kiss? The baby was his excuse whilst pregnant and when we shared a room with him but now he's in his own room so I can only think the problem is me and he doesn't want to be near me. I don't want to walk away because the baby needs us both but I'm so unhappy now. ????

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TeddyBear2015 · 22/06/2015 23:26

Jellybean we were only together a few months before getting pregnant and I blamed myself for the lack of sex because I was nervous. Previous to meeting my OH I had been physically and sexually assaulted and this made me extremely nervous every which probably made it weird for us both (he doesn't know what happened). I have to set out terms of what needs to happen if we stay together. I'm going to take all the advice here into consideration and take it from where we are now. Thank you again everyoneSmile

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