We've been together 20 years this summer and married 8 years in September. Our daughter is 14.
I don't feel anything other than friendship for my husband, although I am very fond of him.
Recently someone else has been paying me a lot of attention and I've realised how much I've missed the chat, flirting, feeling special.
I'm not planning on ending my marriage because of this person or planning to have an affair.
My husband has put on a lot of weight, now weighs 20 stone and is not interested in losing weight. He loves junk, crisps, chocolate, McDonald's, hates any sort of exercise. He showers only every third day, only shaves for work and doesnt wear aftershave or EDT, just deodorant (cheap). His clothes are all band t-shirts and jeans.
I knew he was like this when we met, but he seems to care less now. I feel no physical attraction for him, but feel like something is missing.
He wants to watch tv all the time, rubbish geeky stuff that doesn't interest me really.
He was out of work for quite a while and didn't try to earn money in any way, I am full of resentment and anger for being left alone to deal with it - I worked and still did all the cleaning, gardening, cooking etc.
Yesterday I tried to tell him all this, now he won't speak to me. I tried to be kind, not get angry, but to be honest.
I can't leave, we have a lot of debt, our house won't sell, Im self employed and don't earn enough to pay rent and to live off.
I don't know what to do. How can I make this work if he thinks nothing is wrong? He said to me he thought we were "doing ok for our age"! Is that enough?
I don't want to upset my daughter, she loves him. He's not been a great dad, no energy to do anything much with her other than watch tv.
Sorry for rambling on. I've no one to talk to. My mum has cancer so I dont want to worry her and I don't really have friends.