Does anyone else think domesticity is inevitably a passion killer?

[jasper]

Can you tell I am a little sad and wistful tonight?

agree expat

you can find plenty of places than a bed
to leave a wet patch

get out of shit free card= as long as it doesnt affect the kiddies

"get out of shit free card= as long as it doesnt affect the kiddies " Eh? Didn't quite understand that.

foxinsocks - ITA. I expected/hoped to have lots of frolic opportunities too. But I met DH at that age and it just went from there. We both said that we wish had met each other 10 yrs later but we didn't and that was that.

moondog - I think I meant to add a smiley thingy on my last post. Without it came out very tut-tut and santimonious. Not really meant to be. Honest.

kama, that exactly how i felt about it too. i had my fun and i was done with the shagging around and getting plastered. i think i just outgrew it very quickly

Expat, your post just made me cry. Basically, what I want for my dd is just that - to find the Prince without having to trawl through all the frogs. Wouldn't that be nice

thanks for all the replies.

Notasheep, notalesbian!
Expat, notbeendrinking.

WWW you have what I would like.

In theory I don't see why all the strong if slightly boring proper deep love stuff (kids, families, home, food, chores, holidays ) should not ADD to the sparkle that got you together in the first place.

In my experience it has killed it all stone dead. I am beginning to think the initial attraction ( and of course I convinced myself it was NOT just physical!) is just nature's con to make you breed.

Sob!

www nothing in particular has brought this on other than a gradual feeling i am turning into a bit of a frump and not really experiencing ANY nice glam sexy bits with dh anymore ( who will kill me if he finds out I am posting all this!)

In fact not much that is nice OR glam OR sexy never mind all three

oh i dunno - i hear you can be quite inventive with a hoover - rhuby told me

dining room table not just ofr eating on y' know.

oh i think you mean romance ..... silly you... men just do that to get a shag or when your pissed off - or when you say " you dont buy me flowers anymore"

best to say "buy me jewellery i feel horny" get it done with

No I don't mean romance. I buy myself flowere and am not interested in jewellery.
It is the the feeling of lust and being lusted after I miss

Keep him at arms length for a week at a time and then go out for a meal without knickers!! That usually makes you lusted after... . Absence, as they say, usually makes the heart (or any other organ) grow...err...fonder...

joalie a week???
he would not even notice. A year maybe

I'm with jasper. Missing the lust/being lusted after something terrible.
Since I found out I was pregnant with my DD in May 2005 DH and I have managed it all of 3 times, and even then it's been because we kinda felt we ought to (and are TTC). Before we got married the sex was great. We lived some distance apart so mostly just had weekends and made them really count. He'd arrive at my flat every Friday night (always my place coz he only had a room in camp) and the place would be clean & tidy. I'd be glammed up and smelling sweet, clean sheets on the bed, candles lit etc. Now, we both slob about the house - coz what's the point expending precious energy making an effort to look good when you've got loads of housework to do, and are only gonna get puked on by the baby anyway. When we do have some free-time all we wanna do is sleep/veg out. He's working away for 2 months at the mo and I'm missing him like mad, I'm really hoping this separation will reignite some of the passion, but I fear it'll only be for a few days before the drudgery takes over again.
An ex boyfriend of mine always reckoned that when you started farting in front of each other, that was when the passion started to die. I think I kinda agree.