Tell me I'm not being a competely selfish cow for feeling like this!

[selfishsister]

My sister is about to have her first baby, my first niece or nephew and her husband has just got a job abroad for three years so they are moving away. We've always been really close and have always lived within 9 miles of each other and I'm just dreading her going. Also, I was going to be looking after the new baby when she returned to work and was so excited about being really close with my neice/nephew and having them be close to my children and I'm just really gutted.

Moving abroad is a great opportunity and it sorts out quite a few problems for them but I'm just so sad about it and feel very selfish that I can't be happy for her.

where are they moving too?

nice holidays?!

to* (grr)

of course you are disappointed.......xx all the things you were looking forward to are not going to happen.....are they moving too far for you to visit?

if you were selfish,you would be angry, not disappointed and sad...

Cypress, so very nice holidays.

SS, my dad moved to Singapore when my ds was 9 months old and I felt exactly the same as you do. He'll be there for at least 5 years and I was so sad that he'd miss out on such a huge part of ds's (and now dd's) early life. I think it's normal to be disappointed when things change from the way you'd envisaged them to be but it will get easier and you will start to look forward to the lovely holidays with her and her dc .

... and you feel sad because you love her. Of course you're going to feel bad about it, but it's not being selfish.

Thanks everyone. I'm still sad but feeling a bit better about it today. I've told her how much I'll miss her and also checked out how much it will cost to visit. I'm also going to buy her a webcam as a leaving gift so we'll be able to see her baby grow day by day.

You sound like a lovely sister not a selfish one. Wish my family cared as much about me and being close to me. It is totally natural and okay to feel the way you feel and I am sure your sis will be touched if you tell her and even have a sob on her shoulder!!