Telling an online date you're a bit of a porker?

[Ringovandingo]

Been talking to someone from tinder on whatsapp since the beginning of January, we live about 20 miles from each other, not met up yet but we're planning to this weekend.

I'm a size 18 and I've kind of never told him! I had no intentions Of meeting anyone and just wanted a chat in the evenings but I've grown to like him a bit and do want to meet to see if there's anything there

I'm not sure whether to mention my size or not? I've sent him selfies but they were quite flattering, you know the drill head shots and from an angle so you look lovely! I've said I'm not skinny but that's about it and it was a while ago.

Any advice? Shall I drop it in conversation now so he can make his excuses or do I just meet anyway then write him off if it turns out he's shallow?

[DrMorbius]

I'm with WhatALoadOfOldBollocks the guy may well feel duped as looks/body size/shape, do play a significant role in what one person initially finds attractive in another person.

If one says that statistically on average, people's weight is propraitonal to their height (with some allowance for age), then by not saying anything (or by using strategic photo's) you are delibrately letting the guy assume a certain thing.

Also why waste your own time and possibly sensibility on a person who (is not into you".

[romeomorningwhisky]

From January is a long time to be chatting then for someone to then judge you on having curves/ a purely superficial basis.

Meet him, see how it goes & seriously if there's any kind of negative reaction kick him in the balls & leave.

You wouldn't want to be knocking about with someone so shallow.

[something2say]

All of this advice is great.

But what I'd add is that you have looked this to build up by writing so long and allowing feelings to develop. I'd take more of an active role in my feelings developing for someone who may not like me. X

[Ringovandingo]

Thanks for the advice all

We've been chatting since January because I really didn't have any intention to meet up with anyone.

I decided to bite the bullet last night and we met for a coffee. He was lovely we had a good laugh and a kiss and been texting today so looking good so far :)

[Foreverconfused]

Really glad to hear that Ringo , as someone said earlier on in thread , talking since January is too long for him to really be put off by your size.

[flatbellyfella]

Good result Ringo.....

[wallypops]

I described myself as more of a porche carrera than a porche 911! When I was ill recently I said I'd lost a bit of weight and my partner couldn't have cared less. There are really lovely men, who amazingly don't care at all.