Is this normal? What would you do?

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First post - ready to be told I'm being a baby!!
Been with my partner for 18 months (long distance) and very recently moved in together. I've moved over 4 hours to live with him so missing friends and family a lot!
Before I moved in we had a chat about me being too controlling and serious (I worry too much, anxiety has been suggested by docs) and I was asked to change how I act and be more relaxed.
Since moving this hasn't changed to the point that every time I don't want to do something he does/ don't agree with his opinion or don't want to be pushed/ tickled/ or just don't want to do something he has a go at me for being miserable and boring and not the kind of person he wants to be with.
He has been sleeping in the spare room if I don't want to have sex with him and says it's because I make him feel unloved and sad all the time (I asked for a bit of space to adjust after the move and didn't want him all over me all the time).
I suppose what I'm asking is; is this normal when just moving in together? would you keep working and see if things iron themselves out? Or in your experience are these things best to get out while you can?
This morning he told me that quite frankly he doesn't want to be around me, and I don't know what to do if he thinks that way. I love my job here and moving home could be an option. Thanks for any advice!!

If he says he doesn't want you around, I would take him at his word and leave. How can you stay when he is saying that?

And the behaviour you describe is awful. That 'playful' hurting when he knows you don't like it, sleeping in the spare room, no that is not normal.

Agree, not normal. I'd head home, cut your losses and be grateful for a lucky escape. Twerp

highly unlikely to make you feel secure and less anxious

Good point. In the relationship with my DP I feel more secure. That's the result of a happy relationship.

I suppose I've had enough with all the put downs- you're so miserable/ boring / don't know why I put up with you. My self esteem is fairly shot and I suppose it's hard to imagine I'll find someone new in time moving out is definitely an option, thanks for all the advice!!

From personal experience, please get out. I found it hard to imagine anybody would treat me better. Your self esteem and anxiety will never improve while you're with him, it will only get worse. The right partner will build your self esteem just by respecting you as a person.

He's acting really cunty. Go home and meet a normal guy who doesn't sulk when you don't want to have sex.
I have (diagnosed) anxiety issues and DH works with me so we can both be in a happy and positive relationship. You deserve the same.