New to online dating... what would you think to this

[yourcoatisred]

Speaking to a guy who seems lovely. He is 34, I'm 27.

From what I can tell so far, he seems pretty normal..sees family, friends, owns a home etc. But he makes jewelry in his spare time as a hobby. This has made me feel a bit weird. Is this me being picky, what do you all think?

As far as I know he doesn't sell it.

And who says its just men who reinforce gender stereotypes?
"Like my men, manly"

Seriously, give your head a wobble.

but if it was awful fimo stuff or horrible avant gard fake arty stuff

Yy. Or loombands

Op - why don't you show him this thread and then perhaps the decision will be made for you.

What's wrong with wanting men to be men?! I just find that activity a bit feminine...

If he means silversmithing, it's actually quite hands on, with blowtorches, anvils, acid and hammers. Not wimpy at all!

Men here in sweden are all taught to knit as children and I know quite a few burly Vikings who knit :)

But having said that, if you have any doubts, listen to them. You might be picking up on something else entirely that's putting you off.., online dating is a swamp .

Agree with lavender - I think you are being massively judgemental and more than a bit silly, but if he doesn't tick your boxes then move on.

of course you're picky, but if you've gone off him then you've gone off. If a guy I was talking to didn't like that I for example lift weights instead of doing something feminine like ballet, then I would guess that there would be other areas we would have differences of opinion.

I've done silversmithing courses, usually about 50/50 male and female, professional jewellers tend to be male, There is lots of soldering, hammering and sawing involved and you get quite dirty , not at all a feminine pastime -you also tend to get burnt, cut yourself etc. Most of the men I've come across on these courses were pretty masculine types

Maybe I'll carry on chatting, then ;)

Crikey, I'm a man and if I were in this poor bloke's position would probably rather know sooner rather than later that you had made that sort of judgment about me. But, as others have said, you're obviously entitled only to date the men that you want to!

#proudtolikeballet

I'm a bit of a tomboy. I'm very feminine in a lot of ways but I play football and also do a bit of weightlifting. Most blokes I spoke to on OD thought these were good talking points. A couple were put off, I assume because they prefer girly girls. I thought they were nobs

Are you also the type who wants a 'manly man' then moans when they don't do any cooking?

Sexist women piss me off as much as sexist men.

Yourcoatisred, what about if it was someone like Andy McNab who made jewellery in his spare time?

"Are you also the type who wants a 'manly man' then moans when they don't do any cooking?"
Good point LadyBlaBlah. When I was young I liked "manly, macho men" before realising these men were usually pretty sexist, couldn't discuss issues in the relationship (they would just storm out or sulk), and were really rather tiresome.

I know a couple of male jewellery makers and they make me go weak at the knees...

It's the welding that does it.