feelings post divorce

[cestferme]

Are feelings of bitterness/anger post divorce normal? Not for the loss of the relationship per se, but the loss of family unit, lost opportunity to raise children in a 2 parent family etc. And how do you get over/ come to terms with them - is it possible to put this aside and in time consider marrying again?

Don't believe everything you read on divorce papers re unreasonable behaviour.
I was the one unhappy with marriage but he divorced me on grounds of MY unreasonable behaviour..the reasons were laughable. Even ex admitted they were.
But it got us a quick divorce.

Agree with the above poster - I am divorced for my UB. It's the system - someone has to be divorced and someone has to do the divorcing. The reasons 'why' are completely irrelevant. They don't have to be true or provable.

It took me a long time to get my head around that.

As someone who is newly divorced, I would think long and hard about remarrying. On balance, I probably wouldn't unless I was 'giving up' something, e.g. my career to support his. If there are children being planned, I would wholly recommend it.

Like your partner, I would think about whether I could withstand another divorce. At present, I wouldn't want to risk it (the chances of divorce are much greater in a second marriage). A year is a very short time to 'recover' from the divorce process - anyone who has had a brutal divorce will tell you the same. It takes years to put it behind you. Not all divorces are awful, just some - and if he had a bad one, then it's going to take a long time before the memories of that fade.