My FIL died a few months ago and we'd fallen out (but also reconciled) a few months before he died. I posted a thread called is my FIL a racist about the problems I'd had with him.
My MIL is a serial adulterer and has admitted that she was an awful mother. She's a manic depressive (also confirmed by other family members) and has no moral principles at all-even advised me to have an affair if I ever got bored of her ONLY son!!!!
Once FIL died she decided she wanted more to do with us and wanted to take dd out. We refused and she blew the situation out of all proportion (as MIL's tend to do!!!) She showed the text to my dh's nan who also fell out with us. dh's aunt called and tried to blackmail him-if he doesn't make up with his nan (who cut ties with him!!!!!) she's writing him out of the will. They always use emotional blackmail to get what they want out of us but now resort to financial. To top it all off, MIL has been showing around these emails that I sent to her in anger about the fact that FIL was making racist comments about me. She's now trying to fight this crusade with her sister (who fIL despised) because of stuff I'd written about him before we made up.
They've all been calling my dh trying to get him alone to turn him against me. They've also made it perfectly clear that I'm not welcome anymore, even though the last time I spoke to the family myself, they were fine with me.
My inlaws have never had any positive impact on our lives. Wish I could just tell them to fuck off like lou33 did!!!