MIL is, I'm pretty convinced, a narcissist. I have been reading a lot on here and articles etc so I don't say that lightly.
DH is the child of a narcissistic parent and is, in my non-professional opinion, the scapegoat while BIL is the golden child.
It's a weird set up because I believe that some of this golden child stuff has been transferred to my SD.
Anyway, a long and convoluted back story leads to MIL finally getting what I suspect she has wanted all along; SD has cut contact with us.
MIL has been taking great pleasure in sending DH a list of his faults and reasons why he's a shit father whilst trying to get me involved.
I'm staying out of it and concentrating on my own dc.
I tried to reach out to SD if only to have contact with her siblings through me. And though she says I haven't done anything to upset her, she wants nothing to do with me.
I tried. She's not interested. I have to respect that.
MIL is a cunt unpleasant so I have no interest in maintaining contact with her, even for dc who will never be as important to her as SD and who she will treat badly, emotionally.
(I don't think BIL and SD have gained anything by her brand of 'love' either, tbh).
Anyway, I no the best way to deal with this is to disengage completely. I know that NC is the best and healthiest thing for me, my dc and even dh (with his mother) but...It's bloody hard!
How do you do it?!