Online dating

[Nevergoingtolearn]

So I'm new to being single, feeling lonely but not really ready for a full on relationship, I have a FB but missing the chit chat and company, a friend suggested a well known dating website so I stupidly joint ( nothing to lose ), was scared to look for a week but this week I have started browsing and chatting to people. I'm not a very confident person, I don't like my body and didn't consider anyone would find me attractive so was shocked when I had several messages, today I have been chatting to several men and a old school friend ( who seems to be stalking me ), I'm feeling kind of flattered , a couple men have suggested meeting after we have chatted for a while and worked out that we have a lot in common but I'm nervous about meeting them.

Anyone else do online dating? How many people have you been to meet?
Tell me your good and bad stories.

Well, arranged to meet no1 today ( as he had the day off work ), waste of time, didn't even turn up, text me 3 hours later saying there had been a road accident and he was very sorry and still wants to meet me. I can find nothing online to suggest there was a road accident so I'm guessing he's making excuses up. I havnt text him back, feeling very disappointed but I'm pretty sure he is lying so I had a lovely morning out alone.

No4 has been messaging me all day, asking me what I'm doing etc...etc..., says he would like to meet up somewhen but he does seem a bit clingy and obsessive.

I think I'm going to wait and see in no3 emails me when he gets back from his trip away.

This online dating is hard work

Can anyone explain online dating etiquette to me , say you arrange to see someone tomorrow ( just a casual meet as friends ), is it ok to arrange other meets with other men for the week ahead or do you wait and see how tomorrow goes?

Someone wants to meet tomorrow ( well he wants to casually bump into me so we can see each other and to find out if we like what we see ), if all goes ok we will go on a date next weekend, he sounds really nice ( as they all do to begin with ) and I am hoping we hit it off. I also have several other men who have asked me out but It feels a bit wrong to make arrangements with other men.

@Never I think that until you find someone who you want to be exclusive with, then just keep on dating others.

If you were out of work you wouldn't apply for jobs one at a time and then wait until you'd heard back from one employer before sending off another application form; that would take forever.

6 months after my 22 year long marriage ended I tried OD. For one day! ( even though I'd paid for 3 months)I was very careful about wording my profile, I wasn't casting my net wide in the hope of just catching someone. On that first day I was drawn to 1 profile, just 1. 2 emails followed by 1 five hour phone call that night. I met him the next day, we have been together for a year now. The happiest of my 46 years on this planet.

There are happy endings with OD ( Match.com for me) as for the kissing thing, just go with the flow and enjoy it. Don't overthink things, relax and most importantly..... Be yourself, your true self and believe you deserve only the best. Sending you love, light and positivity x

Thank you for sharing your story MrsB, I gives me some hope. I am meeting someone hopefully this week, we have been chatting a while, I am a little worried as I think he maybe the clingy type, I hope he doesn't ask me outright if I want a 2nd date as I'm not very good at saying 'no' as I don't like hurting people, I do feel he would make a good friend if that special spark isn't there, I do have another one lined up hopefully for the weekend.
I'm in contact with 5 men at the moment , one i shall never meet as he sounds like a twat.

I LOVED OD

As long as you get a bit of a thick skin and see it is as some fun dates that may lead somewhere, it can be great.

I did it for about 18 months, had a couple of 2/3 months "relationships", lots of dates, then met DH. Been together 10 years and 3 dc's. I know 2 other couples who met like that who have married. There are lots of us about!