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AIBU to be grumpy re: this?

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NameChanger54321 · 31/05/2015 15:26

I've been seeing a guy for 6 months now. See each other pretty much daily. Tend to do our own things - gym, see friends etc. then get together later in the evening to stay together. So I'm used to daily contact.

He's away this weekend. Went Friday. He let me know he'd arrived safely on Friday night. Saturday morning, I text him good morning and to enjoy his day, and he replied with a kiss.

Saturday night, I text goodnight. No response.

He's read the message and he was on Facebook this morning but I've heard nothing. Bit of background - the hobby he's away for will mean that he's using Facebook to watch videos recorded from the hobby this weekend.

A few weeks ago, I went away and barely heard anything from him when I messaged. When I questioned him, he said, "You're away, why do you want to be tied to your phone messaging me? You've got better things to do than to message me."

So, I guess this is his mindset. My friend says I'm being needy. I've only sent two messages and she said it's a "bit much".

Just wondering if IBU to expect a message or two each day to check in and ask how each other is? Or whether this indeed a reflection of me being ultra needy?

(I know this is super-trivial in comparison to other threads on here, but sometimes if I can just sound things off people that are bothering me, it means I don't sound it off to him and make myself look pathetic.)

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ItsMyFuckingWedding · 31/05/2015 15:37

I would sit back and let him text you. I'm pretty sure everything will be okay and you are worrying needlessly Smile

GertrudeTrudy · 31/05/2015 15:46

I don't think you are being unreasonable but I'm sure everything is fine! I have the exact same mindset as your SO. When I am out for the evening or away from home I hardly ever text, maybe just to check in, let DP know I arrived safe and let him know when to expect me home. If he is out or away I wouldn't expect him to keep in regular contact with me either. Don't worry, I'm sure everything is fine and you'll have a lovely time when he gets home catching up Smile

NameChanger54321 · 31/05/2015 15:54

Thank you! I appreciate those responses. I can be such a panicky bum at times. Unnecessarily so!

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