Did anyone else initially feel really quite elated after split and then crash a few weeks later?

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Just need a bit of hand-holding I think... H and I separated about a month ago after relationship had deteriorated beyond repair. I ended it. Numerous reasons but biggest ones were a) total lack of interest/participation in family life and unwillingness to do anything to change this b) occasional verbal aggression and verbal abuse and c) unwillingness to pull weight financially.

Generally I know I've done the right thing. Don't have any real fundamental doubts about what I've done. And for the first 2/3 weeks I felt actively happy... liberated, sure of myself, attractive and full of energy.

Last week or so, not so much. Suddenly feel very alone, very old (early 40s), incredibly tired, wobbly and not functioning well at work and worried that the best years of my life are behind me. Finding it really hard to keep that elusive new mojo. Suddenly feel a bit blind-sided by all this, having thought I was dealing with it quite well.

Just wondering if that's fairly normal and seeking advice on how to deal really. I think I'm pretty lucky compared to a lot of the people I see on this board, I'm basically OK, not heart-broken, not being left up shit creek financially and my daughter is coping pretty well. Could I be in denial about what I'm going through?

Any advice about how to weather this new period in the cycle?

I was married Op as I said for 33 years and when he went for good , finally, it was a relief but oabiti mentions the right word . It is grieving. You grieve for the good times, the loss of what it should have been and at the same time you have the relief that Italy the hard times are over.

It is like a see saw.

Enjoy the good feelings. That will be when you feel most productive and pamper yourself through the bad.

Crying is ok.

I cried buckets.
Easily took two years to feel on an even keel . The whole family was rift apart. I'm talking adult children and grandchildren too.

You will get there. Honest

This is normal. And by normal I mean it's shit and incredibly difficult and hurtful in all kinds of ways, but part of the readjustment process after a huge and very stressful decision.

You will have good days and bad days. Be gentle to yourself on both!