I posted a thread on here last year but can't link to it for some reason. Things have moved on in as much as I sold my property, cleared most not all debt - turned out we had another 7/8k debt I didn't know about where DH had borrowed off various people. Moved to rent a friends place as less rent per month. DH stopped drinking in October - I laid it on the line after a certain incident! And hasn't drunk since. Still short tempered with me and children.
I was a sahm but managed to get a job at the beginning of the year and my current dilemma is in relation to this. My DH wants me to give up work - on the basis it is too stressful on us all me working plus it's actually costing money to go to work taking into account childcare and travel. He doesn't think my concerns re money - ie his attitude to debt (he doesn't deal with it so it escalates) and job - quite often he'll say he almost told his work to stick it! I accept I may be more stressed and am working on that. I've suggested alternate childcare arrangements but he said it won't make any difference and may cost more - without trying it.
What would you do in this position/what do you think is the reasonable thing to do?
There is plenty more to add but if I put everything in it would be a massive thread.