Stately homers - advice on the best kind of counsellors

[CheeseIsMyChocolate]

Feeling a bit desolate today. I've tried various kinds of counselling. I just don't feel like I'm getting any real benefit. I know it's a long, hard slog and you have to work at it, but I've given up today.

I'm in the lucky position like I feel lucky of being able to afford counselling. Currently I'm doing a kind of coaching thing, while its good, i feel it's not quite right. I had talking therapy for about 6 sessions but started to get a bit overwhelmed with having to talk all the time. I wanted some direction and insight.

So I'm after a fair amount of direction and tools to use, and to understand why I still feel really fecking scared and angry about my df. Am nc with him. Had a nightmare about him the other night, he kept me and my sister hostage and I was scared that he had murdered my dm.

Do you think Cognitive Analytic Therapy might be worth a look? I haven't tried it myself but have heard it described as a more in-depth version of CBT, focussing not just on coping tools as CBT tries to, but also looking into the past.

What kind of talk therapist were you seeing? I would avoid person-centred if you want something more interventionist and try psychodynamic or integrative. Don't know much about CAT.

But the most important thing is the rapport with your counsellor - research has shown most approaches are equally successful, it's just important that the counsellor has some kind of theoretical framework and isn't just doing the best thing they happen to come up with at the time.

I'd say have a look through the BACP and UKCP directories, see who you feel drawn to and go from there.