So lonely in my marriage.

[rlmiles]

Good morning,

This is my first post so please forgive me if the etiquette is slightly wrong.

I have been with my husband for 7 years bit only married for 1. The relationship has not always been great but we have always been able to work through things.

Our ds even turned up a few years ago despite using precautions and we didn't know about him until late into the pregnancy. Despite the stress of this dh has been a fantastic father and we were going from strength to strength.

We decided to have another child, and despite many problems and miscarriages I am now nearly 37 weeks pregnant. When I fell our relationship was amazing but I found out about 6 weeks ago that he has lied to me.

I have since completely detached from him and won't even sleep in bed with him. I am not angry anymore just sad and lonely. I know this is my fault but I just can't let him in.

It feels like he is just my roommate and while he seems to be okay with the situation I just want to cry. I don't know how to move on from here as he doesn't even seem to grasp how bad things are.

Thank you for letting me vent.

OP. I have no advice I'm afraid but have slightly similar circumstances. I discovered my H was lying to me six weeks into my second pregnancy. I took him back after the baby was born and within 3 months discovered he was doing it again. I then tried for a year to move on but couldn't. My advice is that practically it will be easier for you to have someone to share those esrly baby days with but it's not easy emotionally.

Can I ask what he lied about?

I'd have to know what he lied about before making a judgment or offering advice..

I can understand you'd feel lonely if he doesn't seem to comprehend or acknowledge how this is affecting you. Have you tried to discuss things?