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Going insane, doesn't care

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idokidok13 · 21/05/2015 22:53

There's a lot of history and other things but it would take far too long to explain all that.

Basically I was pregnant, but my relationship with do was awful at that time (he smashed my things and acted like a general psycho and scares the tap out of me) and I had hyperemesis so had an abortion. It wasn't an easy decision but it was the right and and I so t feel particuarly guilty or bad BUT, ever since then (4ish weeks ago) my life just seems so, so stressfull and I can't handle it.
I get random abuse from his mother as well but he doesn't think he should stand up to her :S apparetlt she thinks im lying about the abortion. I haven't e en told anyone he told her, so how am i lying?

Basically, we argue SO BAD. I'll mention something that bothers me, a little thing, and he screamed at me, grabbed me and threw me onto the floor and generally was a dick. Kw this is where its weird, there's something wrong with me recently o just can't handle this situations I got so stressed out I punched myself in the face and have a massive black eye, and amahed a mug on my head. Its so emvarassing I have no idea why I do it ita like km possesef and I just hate myself so much jn that moment. DP just carried on the arguments whilst I was in that state and begging him to stop, obviously its not his fault im going mad but I feel like of he loved me he'd have some sympathy? Or atleasy not carry on saying horrible things about me whilst I feel like that!? He laughed, called me and attention seeker and threaten to film me. I feel like km actually breaking like my mind is just snapping and the guy who is meant to love me is just making fun of me.
Don't know what to do. Don't have anyone else.

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honeyroar · 21/05/2015 23:26

You sound as though you need to see your doctor and discuss all this. In the meantime try and have a break from this guy, get away, he is not helping, the whole situation sounds stressful and you can't cope with it right now. Work on your own health and strength, and then hopefully you will be strong enough to see that he is no good for you.

SquidgyMaltLoaf · 21/05/2015 23:29

I think anyone would struggle with being with someone who treated them the way he treats you, by the sound of it. No wonder you feel like you're going mad - NOBODY should treat their partner that way. You need to get out of this relationship.

Plantpot83 · 21/05/2015 23:33

it sounds as though you are living through some horrendous circumstances and are reaching breaking point as anybody would. You have recently had a termination and even though your made the right choice for you, it can still take a bit of time to recover. Not only is your DP not supporting you but he's undoubtedly an aggravating factor in how you feel, if not the main cause, I don't think that you're 'arguing', his behaviour is simply abusive, and what you describe is disgusting. In the first instance maybe you should go to your GP urgently and explain to him how you've been feeling and what has been happening, I'm not sure how much they could offer but it might be a first step.

In all honesty I don't think that there's any point trying to change your DP, or waste time wondering why he's not more supportive, you sound like you're in a horrible relationship. You don't mention you financial situation but maybe if you're reliant on him but did want to leave, you could also seek some advice from women's aid or an organisation like that.

SewingAndCakes · 21/05/2015 23:36

You poor thing. He is abusive and you need to get far away from him. I think you need to see your GP too and get some help for yourself. Please listen to the advice from people on here as lots have been through similar circumstances and escaped. Womens Aid would be a good place to start Flowers

SewingAndCakes · 22/05/2015 07:23

How are you doing today? Do you feel up to making an appointment with your gp?

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