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He's taken an overdose.

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Allbymyselfagain · 21/05/2015 21:06

What do I do. He's text telling me he's taken an overdose. He won't tell me where he is. I don't want to get sucked back into this but I can't bear the thought of him killing himself. What do I do?

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Applecrumbling · 21/05/2015 22:31

I've had this before, manipulative and childish behaviour, also controlling... Run for the hills! Pity him.

zipzap · 21/05/2015 22:31

I'd still report it to the police though - then they can have it on their records so that if he tries to do anything silly again they have evidence of his past manipulative behaviour.

Lweji · 21/05/2015 22:41

I'd agree with still contacting the police.
He'll get a reality call from them and the message that you are not accepting responsibility. But it's also important, because it's a form of harassment and it may raise flags should he try other things to pester you.

pictish · 21/05/2015 22:41

Well done.
My story was the same - he claimed (to me) he'd taken a packet of paracetamol but when the police (knowingly) made noises about going to hospital to have his stomach pumped, he fessed up. I think he'd taken a few but nothing like the amount he'd said.
It was all about getting my attention...and when it didn't, he gave up.
If I had responded by panicking and begging him not to, I think he might have taken more. The manipulative shite.

You have handled it brilliantly.

AnyFucker · 21/05/2015 22:43

Block him now, don't just say you will

MsPavlichenko · 21/05/2015 23:04

Yes, block him from moby and landline if you have one. I found BT really helpful when I did this. If he continues ask WA to suggest a lawyer. Am in Scotland so different here, but I did this and got an interdict to stop the harassment.

My XH actually managed to break his leg on a drunken night out in an attempt to reel me back in. Its amazing the lengths they'll go to!

Skiptonlass · 22/05/2015 08:26

Definitely report to 101.

Manipulative shit. He needs a police-shaped wake up call. Good on you for not getting sucked in to it.

breadstixandhommus · 22/05/2015 10:25

Thank god for MN. I'm sure, had you not posted here and got brilliant advice, you would've played right into his manipulative paws.

What he has just demonstrated is the level of control he wants over you. His behaviour is despicable and makes a mockery of people like me who have genuinely hit rock bottom and attempted suicide but the last thought on their mind is an attention seeking text.

Back away from him and don't get sucked into his emotional blackmail.

Look after yourself

Allinson2014 · 22/05/2015 10:39

Well done for handling it so calmly. This happened to me once too. My ex punched me so hard in the face i fell with the baby. I gathered the DCs and left the house. About an hour later he text to say he'd taken an overdose. I ignored and when I got home a couple of hours later he was just being loaded into an ambulance. He couldn't have had that much as he was released from hospital two hours later after no treatment. It was an attempt to manipulate me into not calling the police, it didn't work. Don't be sucked into his controlling behaviour

Joysmum · 22/05/2015 12:30

How are you today? I think you've done the right thing

hereandtherex · 22/05/2015 13:03

Known people like this. Men + women. Always other people's partners thank fuck.

You are dealing with very large, very stupid, very selfish children.

Ring the police + get them sectioned.

RubbishMantra · 22/05/2015 13:18

I hate this sort of manipulative behaviour. When folk are genuinely suicidal, they don't announce their plans. Well done for not getting sucked in. Best thing is to block him from all your devices.

I had an ex who went off in a huff, announcing he was going to drive into a brick wall. I replied, "Well it's probably best you don't, but that's entirely your choice." Guess he changed his mind, because 15 minutes later, he was banging and shouting at my door. He lived with his mum too.

Summertimeplease · 22/05/2015 13:31

Ex did this to me and he got really angry that I called the police who turned up and took it seriously.

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Allbymyselfagain · 22/05/2015 14:21

Thank you everyone. Im fine this morning. I blocked him from my personal mobile but he does still have my work number. He hasn't called or texted me on that so i think he's got the message for now. Blocking him on the work number is a level of complexity I don't have but if necessary i can ask IT to.

Hopefully his mum has given him the worlds biggest bollocking

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AlwaysDancing1234 · 22/05/2015 14:30

Well done for dealing with the situation so well. You've done the right thing by blocking, see if you can speak to someone in IT about blocking him from work too, shouldn't be too complicated.
My ex did this to me a lot when I first broke off with him. He got his mum to call me saying he had to go to hospital as he'd "slit his wrists" when I (stupidly) turned up it was so superficial a large plaster was all that was needed. I didn't fall for his crap again and cut contact after that.

Mitzimaybe · 22/05/2015 15:01

I also think you should still report to the police on the non-emergency number as this is unlikely to be the last trick that he tries, and you would be best off getting everything he's done so far on record now, before anything else happens.

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