Am I a mug again or over reacting?

[Lula2515]

DPs bday. DS offered to babysit but DP said no as we're broke and can't afford to of out. Fair enough, DS goes to bed at 7 so could have a nice evening in together. Few days ago mentioned he had drinks at work with big boss. Said this morning we would be home 6:30/7. I'm still waiting.

Makes me feel like I'm just not as fun as work lot. Feel miserable. Is that ridiculous? It's his bday so can do what he likes I guess.

Why do you have no intention of leaving; that is a genuine question. Do not let your own pride here be your enemy as well. Pride comes before a fall.

Leaving with your son is indeed an option that you should not dismiss out of hand.

Is this really what you want to teach your son about relationships, for him to potentially grow up to be just as abusive as his own dad is towards you his mum?. He will learn that from you both. Do you want your son growing up seeing his mother being treated so badly whilst she in his eyes accepts it demurely and without question.

Your man has not listened to you before now so nothing has really changed. You can say all you wish to him but he is not interested in hearing what you have to say; his own opinion is the only one that matters to him after all. He treats you with contempt and that is what you deserve in his eyes. He could not have given a toss that you prepared a meal and cake for him for his birthday.

Why do you accept so little in a man, why is your relationship bar so low?.

I just don't think it's LTB bad.
You're right, I don't want my son to treat women with disrespect and maybe I have issues because of my own parents

I think you need to discover feminism. Women and men being different but equal and all that. You sound subservient, he is treating you with little respect. By all means don't Ltb but be clear you're allowing yourself to be walked over. Doesn't relieve him of responsibility to behave like a decent human however, but all you have control over is you

Well I have no intention of leaving. And I told him he was out of order and he needs to stop drinking so much. What other options are there?

Why don't you have any intention of leaving? He treats you like shit and doesn't even care enough to give you a sincere apology and try to make amends?
What a way to live.

You have plenty of options.