Are most men like this?

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My boyfriend of 5 months is the sweetest kindest guy ever, but never tells me he misses me etc unless I say it first. He is good to his girly friends but I feel that I only have the same standing as them. I never get a text saying something 'nice', yet when I say to him 'Do you think my texts to you are soppy', (Im always sending little messages) he will say 'No I love them'. He just seems to have a block about sending or saying something first to me! He went away on sunday for business and I wont see him till next week, yet all he said was 'Don't miss me too much' Maybe I expect too much as in all other ways he is lovely.

Any suggestions or same experiences??

He may just be less affectionate over text than you are :) My OH is like that, but try not to feel insecure about it, because as you say, he is very sweet and kind which suggests he really likes you :) If you are worrying about him not sending you something nice, try and think back to a moment in person where you have felt really loved and cared for :) Also it's only 5 months in, so you're probably worrying about his feelings / where it is going, but I think over time as you feel more secure in his feelings it will become less of an issue.

Neither of you are 'right' with regards to sending messages. You're just different. As long as he is kind and treats you well, accept that that's just how he is.

Maybe he doesn't miss you?
I don't mean that nastily. I don't miss my boyfriend when we're apart. I don't even miss my child (divorced) unless it's longer than 3-4 days. I'm just busy with my life and accept how it is - I don't have the time or inclination to be missing people!

I wouldn't like a lt relationship where someone is unable to express their feelings.

But then again, 5 months is kind of no time to be declaring undying love, and if he were it would be more worrying.

Does he express any feelings towards you at all?

No, he doesnt really express any feelings at all. He is extremely busy with work and often works late - almost every night and has children there half the week. We split late last year and only got together again when he sent me a loving text saying he missed me. That was the only text that persuaded me text to answer him and we got back together. He just seems a bit unexperienced with grown up relationships (married from 19 to 37 when she cheated on him) a crappy relationship followed, now me. I want it badly to work, but I need reassurance and a bit of love and affection in return. I always offer to come to his house but he doesnt really invite me at all. Maybe Im too pushy??

You're not pushy enough!
I had to check you'd written the OP I had remembered!
How is he the kindest sweetest guy - but doesn't bother inviting you over and is always so busy?
Move on - HJNTIY.
But that's not from the lack of easy "miss you hun" shite, but from not bothering to make time for you.

So when do you two see each other?

It sounds like he may not be that into you? are you the one doing all the chasing?

It's like this morning. Ive just got to work and sent him a Good Morning Darling text. He never says 'darling' or 'Gorgeous' or anything. I always send the first one of the day. Yet in other ways he is fine. He always cuddles me, and says I look nice, but I feel like I need him more than he needs me. Should I pull back on the texts, wait for him to be the first to call/text? He has time to do this this week, but....