big row last night all made up now and air cleared. but

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d/h came in a bit pissed leaving do at work etc... and wants us to have a party on boxing day for work ones whom i don't really know. oh i don't know probably his way of being more socialable. so i said if you want does it have to be boxing day? it is kind of the last thing i want. so as i sit writing this i know i am going to say no tomorrow and he will be i tried to make the effort etc......and we will be back to square one. Am i being miserable?

Don't say no. say

"I know, how about we have the party on the 28th! Because loads of people visit family on Boxing day, but by the 28th they will vbe recovered enough to stay later, otherwise they will all go home at 10. What drinks shall we get in, find out what they all drink!"

That way, you get your way (no boxing day party) and he thinks he has got his, and that you agree and are enthiusiastic to boot.

we are meant to be going to see his ones then long story mine are too old and not in this country. kids will love to see their nan and grandad and cousins etc.... and just to add more pressure he is away for a month tomorrow with work until 18th dec and last year he was away for christmas so i went home with kids. so he wants to say at work tomorrow. think i am going to go with christmas is for family. i will not relax and enjoy christmas this is so out of character weird.