do you think it is possible to be in love with someone if...

[maggiesmama]

they arent in love with you? or do you think if they dont, you cant be in love, but just infatuated?

and, if you have been either in love/infatuated with someone who doesnt return your feelings, when does it stop hurting?

(boo hoo)

personally I'd say you were infatuated because unless you're 'with' someone you can't really know them to fall in love with them iyswim?

sorry you're feeling bad though

ta. think so too... was with him for a bit though. its odd, isnt it, how we torture ourselves with this stuff.

yes because when you fall in love again you'll wonder what you ever saw in him!

It's entirely possible to be in love w/someone who doesn't love you.

Unrequited love is behind some of the greatest works of art, music and literature.

I think you can be , but it isn;t a healthy love and one day you will find a love thati s returned and although the feeling may not be as intense (mailny becuase it is not a painful love) it is a wonderful feeling.

Yup. "love" is just a series of thoughts and beliefs in your own mind, there's no supernatural outside force to it, and no obligation on the part of someone you love to love you back. It is, of course, tiresome when you want something from a person that they are not prepared to give you, but you won't die for the lack of it and it won't last forever.
Enjoy a few nice daydreams about this person and wait for it to pass. Best of luck.

thanks folks. nice posts. i'll live. read somewhere that it takes twice the time you were with someone to get over it. 8 months to go. lol. its fine. just wondered if i was being mad.

God help us if that was true, I was with my ex hisband for ten years - i don't have time to be morbid and self pitying for twenty years!