Long time apart, need some perspective please

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My DP has left the UK for 6.5 months. I am in week 2.

The next time I see him will be in 3.5 weeks and we will have 2 weeks together.

We also have other trips planned.

Please help me deal with all this, I don't really know what I am asking...just for some perspective, I guess? I keep panicking that the relationship is going to collapse...and obviously that is't helping with anything.

I am constantly thinking of the date etc and can't seem to get on with anything as I feel so stressed about it all.

Any advice would be appreciated.

How long have you been together Op?

About 3 years. Known him for just over that.

My DP moved abroad for two years when we had been dating one month....one year in and we are half way through and doing well.

I'd suggest making a regular plan for contact, for example I know I'll Skype my DP every Wednesday morning and Saturday night. Then you only have a few days between seeing the other person, and it feels less like a huge long period of time and just little chunks.

It's also important to feel part of the other person's life: I felt so much better when my DP introduced me to his friends, told me what his classes were like, showed me around his new flat etc

Hope you feel better soon, the first month for me was the absolute worst, but it does get easier as you get settled into a routine promise. xx

Skype or FT every night. Other than that there isn't much you can do.

Your fear of him leaving you, he could do that anytime. If he was going to do it maybe he would have immediately prior to him leaving but he didn't.