And I'm fed up of it all really. It's affecting our relationship because all we seem to do whenever we see one another now is have a download of how busy he is at work, who has pissed him off etc. He wakes up and starts moaning about how much he needs to do before he gets to work, goes to work and moans at his secretary then comes home and complains to me. I try really hard to be positive and chat through all the stuff he's got to say. I understand he's really busy and I completely appreciate how hard he works for the dc and me. I don't know what else to say. He actually seems to revel in the fact that our friends call him a Grumpy Old Man and loves telling everyone abot dd2's song that she composed just for him entitled "You're grumpy, you're grumpy, you're grumpy, grumpy, grumpy. You're the grumpiest daddy in the whole wide world"
It is utterly draining - we have three children under 7 and the youngest is 9 months old. I'm tired too but I feel that going on and on about it rather than trying to do anything about it is pointless. It's got to the point where I don't feel that I can say anything else to him and I am trying to avoid talking to him because it really brings me down. I'm recovering from PND and am very conscious that I need to try and stay positive about my life (and there is so much to be thankful for) so I find dealing with his pessimism very difficult. I'm worried that this is going to be very poisonous for our relationship.
Anyway, it came to a head at lunchtime. We were chatting about stuff and all of a sudden he launched into a big whinge about how untidy the house is. It's as though he was looking for something to moan about and I just lost it and told him I was fed up of his downbeat attitude and couln't hack it anymore. He was a bit shocked and rang me up later to say that we were going to sit down and "sort it all out" tonight.
I love him dearly, but I cannot live with Victor Meldrew. We're not having any fun together anymore. BTW, he is not depressed - I know what depression is like. He is like having an episode of Grumpy Old Men on in my living room 24/7.
What do I say to him tonight?