Feelings for male friend. Eurgh.

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I have worked closely and built a lovely friendship with a guy but am starting to feel more for him than I should....
We are both in relationships but spend a hell of a lot of time together. I don't physically fancy him and could never imagine doing anything with him but I'm just drawn to him. I think this is as close to an EA as you can get and I feel shit about it all. No flaming please. I told him how I feel but he said he doesn't feel the same despite giving me signs he does. I think I need some perspective really.
I know the solution is to avoid him but I don't want to lose a good friendship. I need someone to tell me it's all going to end in tears. Maybe I'm confusing feelings for a powerful friendship.... eurgh.

Why did you tell him how you feel? What were you hoping to achieve?

It's just a silly crush. It will pass. If you let it. If you are happy in your relationship and want to remain in it, then invest some time in it. Keep your interactions with your friend at work purely professional and the same as you would with any other work colleague. If you are unhappy in your relationship and wish to end it, take positive steps in that direction. Stop wasting time on analysing something which doesn't exist.

That all sounds a bit blunt but I promise it's meant kindly.

Why do you say you have feelings for him if you don't feel attracted to him? I'm intrigued! Surely it's just good friendship if you don'the feel physically attracted to him?

I know what you mean. I am in the same situation, well almost. I'm married but have a thing for a guy at work who's single. I often think about getting it out in the open but on the whole think not