Is it just me????

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I have been with my partner for over 7years, I have 2 children, my youngest is with him. Since having my daughter (who is 4) I haven't really had a lot of interest in sex but my partner is for some reason thinks it's ok to have sex when the kids are around (obviously not in the same room) but if they are downstairs he thinks it ok to being doing it upstairs when to me they could walk in at anytime and I would constantly be on edge. He is constantly in a mood with me and thinks we have problems cause we don't have sex within a week. He doesn't show affection at any other time and thinks that by grabbing my boob as he walks past will get me in the mood for later (if only it was that easy!!) I have tried to tell him this and that sometimes I just feel like a piece of meat but like a typical man he just says I'm making excuses and walks off.

It's not like I want sex with anyone else, I'm just not interested in it full stop. I just do it to keep him happy and get him off my back. I don't want yo be living the rest of our relationship feeling like this but I don't want us to split up.

And does anyone else thinks it's wrong to be having sex when the kids are around??

Yuck. He sounds unattractive. No wonder you're not feeling sexual. Re kids- only you can judge if it's safe and reasonable, can you talk it through with a friend or ideally with him? If you can't talk with your partner, in my opinion, it's a bit pointless being with them

Grabbing your boob is unforgivable. He sounds like an arse

Having sex with the kids about is fine in our relationship. We have a lock on our bedroom door so we can't get walked in on.

Tbf though, from what you've wrotten it's not surprising you've got no interest in sex with this man who shows no interest or understanding of your feelings.

A 'typical' man doesn't grab you and expect sex. He sounds vile tbh. Him being a mood and expecting you to be available while he can have sex on you is pretty grim is it not? And why would you want to stay? Not showing your DC a good relationship is it?

He's not being "like a typical man". Typical men don't make their partners feel like a piece of meat.

You say you don't want to split up - what's making you want to stay? Do you have a good relationship at other times?

It's probably not a case of you not wanting to have sex - it's more likely that you just don't want to have sex with him. And why the hell would you - he's not doing much to make himself desirable or loveable. If you can't talk to him, would something like Relate be useful?

It's not normal for a man to use moods to coerce you into unwanted sex. It's also not normal for him to be willing to have sex when your children can walk in. The unwanted grabbing at your breasts isn't normal either. He sounds abusive.

Your problem is not having sex when the kids are around.

This insistence of his is mostly so that he can say that you are the one not wanting sex. He knows you will say no.
The boob thing is about control. He knows you don't like it, and that it won't get you in the mood. He is doing it so that he can say that he has done something, but he also knows how it makes you feel, and that it probably puts you off sex in fact.

You are not interested in sex because your OH is a twat, and if you look deep down, you may recognise that you don't want to have sex with him.

I'd hazzard a guess that he is not a particularly good husband in other areas too. (and don't say he's a good dad just because he may play with the children occasionally)

He certainly is NOT a typical man!

He sounds like my exH, btw. Notice the ex. He ended up assaulting me because I didn't want to have sex with him. It was all about him and his control of me. In hindsight, I should have left him years earlier.