Not sure what to make of this

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I have been seeing a guy for 3 months, we see each other 3+ times a week, we are exclusive and I am comfortable with how things are progressing.

He is divorced and has 4 year old daughter, I have no children.

He gets on well with his ex wife, and once a month or so the three of them take their daughter out on a day trip. I'm not sure how to feel about this, one of my friends who is also divorced said that she wouldn't be happy about it but then she has an acrimonious relationship with her ex.

The ex wife also gets on well with my guys family and spends time with his mum. I haven't met his family yet.

I would be interested in people's opinions

It's great for their daughter that they can be together all 3 of them. Are you concerned that there might be something going on between him and his ex? If not, then I would think it was fine and a good thing

How he treats his child and ex is a big indicator of the person he is and how you would be treated if your relationship went the same way.

I personally think it's great and would allow them that time with no questioning, so long as I trusted him. Perhaps in the future you could go along with them but you may find out that it's their time for their child.

I think it's great. Occasionally I go out with my daughter and ex, especially on special occasions. I also get on well with his family. Its nice and is surely in his DD best interest.

I don't know what you'd make of my family then.

My mum, step mum and dad are best mates and we all spend every Christmas and occasion together as family.

My niece (step sister's daughter) had to ask why my mum wasn't her nanny too as she's my daughter's and was disappointed at the answer.

It sounds as if he's a reasonable guy who comes from a nice family and that can be no bad thing.

You have to remember that his family are her daughter's family.

Personally, I don't even like my XPIL that much! But from the outside it looks like I spend time with them, but that's because they happen to be blood relatives to my own daughter.

I wouldn't regularly spend time with my XH because he's a dirty lying cheating thieving arsehole who turns my stomach. But if we'd split because we'd grown apart, then yes, absolutely I would do occasional trips with him.

I think it shows a maturity and niceness to the guy you should be delighted with. In amongst all the acrimonious nasty divorces are plenty of people who are lucky that they manage to salvage a friendship out of the end of their marriage, and it does make life so much easier.

Have you any reason to believe they are doing more than exactly what he says - taking their daughter for a day out? There are many reasons why couples split up and sometimes they just find they're better friends than partners.

My DP doesn't do this with his ex and their children, he wouldn't really want to spend all that time with her. But if they did I wouldn't be worried about it. Personally I think it can be confusing for children but it all depends on how it's handled and the people involved. I would talk to him if you have particular reason to be concerned.

I think it's nice. And I say that as someone without children who got with my DP when his dd was 4.
How he acted towards his child and ExW was a massive indicator to me of the type of man he was.
We all have a good relationship whic includes dinners out and friendly cups of tea, all of which is in DSD's best interest.

We spend time as a family on days out and all sorts. As in exh, the dc and I. We have been divorced 3 years and have other partners. I can't see what the issue is.