partner and I have been together 13 years no kids to him mine is 25 at home still over say past 18 months he as changed so much!
He as now retired(60) and since this really he as decided himself he can do what he likes ie
Come and go morning/afternoon returning at meal times now not even mentioned where's his been if I ask what's it got to do with you, we never go anywhere together now for the last month(coffee,shops,walks) no sex for least 18 months, at first I wasn't bothered but over months I've joked and even tried to instigate it to be told it always comes down to sex or some sort with you(I do make jokes(nothing new)but he's made me feel I dare not even mention or joke now.moans when I suggest doing anything with the house.hes even done it now so we buy shopping between us ie if he goes I give him half of what he gets and vice versa.
This pisses me off(not normal for a family)even down to 40p
Things have become that bad we hardly see eye to eye, with lots of silent treatment (on both side) if I try to say anything about the way our relationship is going he say I'm not going to argue all night/weekend and that's it! He just ignores what I've said, unless I bring it up he would carry on like this!
Over the months/weeks I think he just wants a nice place to come back to and meal on table(that hurts)
So I've stopped doing his meals(felt he was taking the piss)
I'm sick of living like this and tried many times to get it back to what it was, letting things go by just to stop argument.
So this morning he mentions about car insurance, I said I've bigger things to be concerned about like this relationship with this I got you started it not speaking(which isn't true) this particular day after lunch, I went to put new plants out into garden, he goes and gets changed into cycling gear and says he's going for ride. Went at about 2pm and came back 4.45. Got changed and came out said do you want me to start putting garden tools away.
I hadn't finished so said No.( he expected me to tidy up then start the tea) He then went in had shower/shave, came down and said do you want your tea now(I was dirty) so said no. He then made his own(when I make it its for 3) I cleared up myself, had shower and came down.he then got changed and went out tennis club and came back at 10.30pm
With this he just completely ignored what I'd just said. He said there's no way your getting me out of here! I've got all the advice. I tried to say lets do this amicable no arguments, I'm not living in no bedsit! More crap total rubbish. After this he walks out as usual.
So back to square one!
It's got that I feel I can't mention relationship (ha) as it's the same thing every time. I want to get it sorted.
How do I get him to leave, when he wont go. I can't stand living like this, silence, food, meals it's a farse.
Thanks for getting this far