what do all you single mummy's do....

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....on beautiful evenings like this evening.
Me and my girls have had a lovely day in the park having a picnic and walking our new puppy around the lake. Home now cooking tea to eat out in the garden. It's soooooo lovely but I get times where I just go to bed at 9pm as for 1 I'm exhausted from the day and 2 because I can't think of anything worse than my own company.
Is this normal?
I have no idea what else to do?
I am also envious of all my fb friends out with friends, visiting friends. I can hear laughter of the neighbours and I wish I had company. I love my girls company, today has been lovely and now chilled in the garden but I do miss adult company.

Unfortunately. ... oh bless him thats so kind of him. I could never imagine any of my friends husbands offering to help out like that. Thats fab and great for you too :)

These evenings are lovely and would be so nice to share a glass of wine or two in the garden with friends.
Could you invite your neighbours round? Or have an evening in with your fb friends?
I get together with friends at mine usually as I'm single and then I don't have to worry about babysitters, sometimes it's just drinks and nibbles, or we order a takeaway, or all bring a dish.
Obviously this isn't every night - probably once every 4/6 weeks or so.
Most evenings I'm in my pj's by 8 and watching crappy tv!

You need to do a bit of positive thinking - feel privileged to be on your own. I love it - nothing better than getting into my own bed (at least for a couple of hours before the kids wander in). Cooking is a nice thing to do on your own or with a mate, especially if you are thinking about shifting the 2 stone.
So many people are trapped in shit marriages - what a waste of a life! Have a candlelit bath and think how lucky you are!

I m having a day of loving being a single mummy. Me and dd have giggled all day and we never did that when shitface was around. I don't mind being on my own in the evening but I have no alcohol in the house and I just found myself googling if I could drink 15 year old pimms straight.... Very annoying not to be able to pop out and get some chilled white wine- & I love gin!

True except I find dieting super easy as a LP. No fat bastard munching crisps on the sofa next to you and if it's not in the cupboards it's impossible to be tempted to go to the shop past 7pm cos I'm housebound!

Agree we've had a fantastic day today. We had a shopping trip to a beautiful old city I've not visited before, including girly coffee stop and a posh lunch - and dd is only 2! Such a lovely treat.

Yes what I would give for a packet of crisps and wine . Just got bloody almond butter and ryvita in the cupboard I ve lost a stone over 4 months just by not allowing myself to buy bad stuff- my weakness is in the evenings and then I can't go out. I am going to have to buy some cheese tomorrow though.

And wine.

Crisps! What a fantastic idea.
Sorry to rub it in but I have some here.

Well done on the weight loss. A stone is loads.

Hahaha no offense taken

I am sure the novelty will wear off soon though.

You could look into a hobby or group of some kind (if you haven't got many friends in the area) - some things are more sociable than others admittedly, but maybe worth having a look in the local paper for things like book groups or sports clubs or whatever.

Just as an aside did you know that you can buy Acorn food flavouring?
What on earth would you use that for?

Op to answer your original question apparently one thing I do is go to odd places on Google ( when I'm not mnetting of course)

I go to a book club once a week. A babysitter once a month for a non late night isn;t too hard to find, even other mums have offered so that they can have the luxury of a tv all to themselves. It gets me out and it's easy conversation.

i meant non late week night.

just remembered i had marmite and freshly baked bread from the bread maker. So that's my weightless gone poofff

and i mean once a month.

christ and i'm sober as a judge. awaiting my supermarket delivery. and what possessed me not to put wine in the order? Crisps there though...

Thanks all, you have certainly cheered me up! Yes definitely going to try and make the effort to invite friends hmm make friends :)
I love my own space too and appreciate a hot bubble bath.
This is true about the diet I really should stop buying the rubbish (willpower)
I have been looking at thinhs I can do its finding the time and a sitter but I'm hoping to find something to shift some weight.
Always on Google me :) I actually don't know what I did before Google!
Haha enjoy willthiseverstop. I never forget my wine :)
Well ladies I'm in bed and actually shattered. Glad you have all had lovely days :)
Night night and thankyou so much you have all been great company and I have a few more ideas for my evenings now xx

6yrs into single life;

We watched Ninja Warrior and BGT. I relax my 'no crappy commercial telly' rule on saturday evenings.

Livin' the dream here .

I'm a single mum and have been since last July. Although it wasn't my choice I can honestly say I'm absolutely loving the evenings on my own! Endless me time to do exactly as I please - TV that I want to watch, books and Internet without worrying about being antisocial, time to actually think about life and make plans. It's highly unlikely we'll be alone forever so I'm fully enjoying it while I can!

Morning ladies :)
Yes I enjoy all of what you enjoy too! Feeling better this morning. I think it's Saturday evenings and Sundays when the girls are at their dads but thats every other so not too bad.
I also think it can get lonely but chatting on here helps lots and lots :)
Have a lovely day all :)

Morning all.
Gin, crisps and mn were my plan last night.
And to be honest it was so nice that it's going to be my plan every night

I tend to potter about,come on mumsnet or watch a film,my downfall is I stay up too late so I can have alone time,I'm very anti social though I much prefer my own company when I get chance

I've been single since Aug and until Feb i was feeling great, loving being single able to do what I wanted. Now with the better weather and longer evenings I'm starting to feel lonely or bored in the evenings when DS goes to bed. I work morning and lunches mainly so after 2pmish each day til bedtime around 10pm I'm free to do homework dinner then relax from 6pm onwards. Same thing mainly every evening so that's prob why I'm bored. I'm on a dating site but just passing the time really, most who get in touch just want sex or something. Hopefully life changes for us bored singles for the better soon. I have a few friends in my street but not close that they would visit me, my real friends live other side of the town n have younger kids but i see them usually once a week.

I'm planning a looooong bubble bath with face mask etc tonight.
Maybe some scented candles and music too and hopefully the small ones won't wake up while I'm in it this time

Enjoy spending time with your kids.
They are more likely to stick with you than any other man or woman.

Evenings are definitely the hardest part as an LP. They're not so bad for me now as I have a couple of teenagers so they're company, but I still remember the loneliness and boredom of the old days ( no internet them either).

What helped me was online study, maybe OU or something similar? A lot of funding for courses has been stopped ( in England anyway) but there are still some sources of help with fees available. I reasoned that I may as well use the time productively, you can make friends online with other students, plus studying keeps your mind busy and wards off the boredom. I'm currently doing an online access to nursing course, and am now wishing I had more time to myself in the eves as I'm struggling to keep up ( work 3/4 eves a week). Sod's law eh.