DP has cheated again....

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And I'm not even angry anymore. Last time I found out he'd been unfaithful I was so so angry for days, maybe even weeks afterwards. Somehow I manage to forget him and here we are a couple of years later with a DC and his done what he promised never to do again...

I just feel so empty and alone and stupid. Stupid for believing that he would change and treat me as I should be treated.

I don't even know where to go from here. Do I stay or do I go?

We are currently opposing a leave to remove applications and now have a lot of experience with regard to how the courts decide these matters. it is all about the move 'enhancing' the dcs life. there has been much 'case law' about the mother's psychological welfare in these cases -if it's the mother's who wants to go. and the courts are more likely to grant these applications in the mothers favour if she can show that she has the emotional financial and family support in the new country that she doesn't have here. That said, the judge will also make some extremely stringemt contact requirements that you will have to facilitate and pay for . (every holiday and couple of half terms )... but as others have quite rightly said, take them and don't bring them back is not only grossly unfair to the child, Bit illegal and would damage your chances severely if it did come to court. On a different note, have I got this right ? you have a child with this man, who has already cheated on you, yet thought it a good idea to get pregnant and get married later ?.sorry op, wrong way round. He holds all the cards financially. Had you been married you could of asked him to leave and applied for an interim maintenance order to get yourself sorted in a place of your own , Bit because you aren't, he has no obligation to move and the only money he needs to pay is child maintenance. Are you on MAT leave, could you return to work. ?

Sorry, not read all thread. Do not go out of the country fir more than 28 days. Sweden and UK have signed the Haag convention. You'd be dragged back by police and risk loosing your DD full stop.
See a solicitor. Go online and print out a form to take him to court if you want to move home. You must document why you consider it better for your daughter to come with you to Sweden. Cite infidelity, but most important is how you and your child will be supported by family and friends. That means practical considerations; money/job prospects, housing, health services, nurseries, schooling etc and also emotionally; support network, grandparents, aunts/uncles or friends you have. It all must be considered!
Good luck.

I'm so sorry this has happened, you sound so lovely. I think you are very level-headed and wise to not consider taking your child out of the country illegally.

He is a cheating fuckwit, but this does not mean any child should be denied the right to have relationships with both parents, so long as there is no abuse.