ok imnot the perfect wife but put that aside for now girls...

[nailpolish]

dh is having a really crap time just now

his work are cutting jobs - redundancies, shuffling, salary slashing, etc

dh has been interviewed for his own job, and he wont know the outcome til after xmas

so xmas is going to be a small affair this year "just in case" dh says

dh's mum died 2 yrs ago of cancer, shortly after that we found out his dad has non hodgkins, he has had chemo but was told yesterday its not working, he has to start a v aggressive from next week

nightimes, i have dh tossing and turning next to me, his bp is raised, headaches, stress induced backache/shoulderache, grumpy, snappy

he is just v worried and i want to help

ideas please

TA

x

FIL is coming to us boxing day

i agree 100% that xmas isnt just the one day

it gets so out of proportion, doncha think?

dont blame you np

tomorrow night

will run dh a bath

and get my massage hands out

thanks girls

will reprot back!

so sorry to hear this naily, what an awful time you and your DH must be having.

Sounds like your meal and backrub night will help to relax him - don't worry about Christmas, kids enjoy it anyway without spending hundreds of pounds on them.

If I've got it right that if he IS made redundnat he will still work there for 3 years, then thats plenty of time to find another job - just concentrate on family not work if htat is the case.

Re his Dad - MacMillan link is fabbo, but just talk to him as and when he needs to.

Good luck with it all, I feel for you - and well done for being so supportive

yes it is pelenty time isnt it - 3 yrs

but will be hanging over his head

and he feels so PRESSURED

Course he does, he's bound to - I wasn't criticising

IF he just had that in his life, he'd be ok about it but with everything else, its a nightmare isn't it.

oh sorry mamag, maybe that came across wrong
i agree with you

Would you like to borrow my fascinator for the wedding NP? It is cream and flowery and clips to your hair.

I could post it to you.

Hope your FIL is OK.

Life is a bummer sometimes isnt it?

collison how kind!

my friend is a florist and she has made one of gold feathers

but thanks anyway xx

heres what is annoying dh the most

his parents worked like buggery their whole lives

retired early to enjoy life and small grandchildren
FIL has heart attach and has to get a pacemaker
2 mths later MIL is diagnosed with cancer and dies a mth after that
mths later FIL is diagnosed with NHL

MIL didnt even get to see dd2 - i was 40 wks pg when she died

fucking bummer yes collision

sorry for offloading and swearing

NP - I think you'll be doing a LOT of offloading and swearing on here in the coming months. Go for it, let it allll out.