have had a situation and cant go to family or friends for advise in case I worry them, but want to get another opinion if anyone feels like sharing theirs?
Anyway here goes...I have recently taken up a water sport initially to support my husbands business (water sports) whilst one of his coaches was away. Found I really enjoyed it and the kids did too, plus we got to spend some time with my husband who normally works 7 days a week. So I have continued to support even thought the coach has returned as initially it has had a very positive affect on my relationship with my husband and on the family in general.
However recently he has been under pressure and is turning to me for more involvement & support which is fine, but I also have a full time job as well as running the home so its starting to become alot for me to handle! We were out last night on the river and the weather was terrible & suffice to say I was completely soaked after the session! (my husband had been in it all day too). He was complaining about one of his employees to me on the drive home and I made a reference that perhaps his tone was not helping the situation and he should try being less critical of everyone and perhaps try a different tactic. he didn't take that well and I made a reference that he should stop biting my head off and appreciate my involvement was initially to support him and he should appreciate that. He then totally lost it put his foot down on the accelerator whilst punching the steering wheel, we nearly hit another car and he stopped at the side of the road and then at the top of his voice shouted at me in the side of my face that it hurt my ear...I was very frightened, he then started to accelerate again and was only stopped at a red light, I then told him to let me out of the car, he opened the door and told me not to leave my bag. I took it, started crying hysterically and walked off in the direction of home whilst he sped on. It was raining and I was still wet from the session on the river so I was hoping he would realize and calm down and come to pick me up and take me home....he didn't so in my flip flops I walked the 45 minutes in the rain to get home. On the way I called my Au pair to ask her to make sure the kids were in bed and that i would be late and he would probably arrive home before me. I finally got home after walking very cold and disappointed that he didn't come for me.
had a warm shower a glass of wine and went to bed. he later arrived at whatever time I don't know and I woke up with him in the bed in the morning. after taking the kids to school I worked from home and it is now nearly 1pm and he has not said anything about last night and shown no sign of apology......I don't know what to think, i have heard him on the Phone to another coach asking how they are as they have a back injury, yet he doesn't care to address what I think a serious incident between us! I don't know how to handle this or what to do. Sorry for the rant but at least I can write it down and put it out there!